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Child development

Child development refers to the chain of physical, language, understanding and emotional developments that takes place in a child from birth to the start of adulthood. Child development is intensely inclined by genetic factors and surroundings that the child is. While a child is progressing they try to become independent from dependency on their parents/guardians. The transition from a baby into a toddler requires a lot of time however in reality development takes place so quickly that you won’t get an opportunity to notice, how time has gone by!
Many changes occur in a baby while it completes the development phase of a baby to the toddler stage
Child development include

Physical skills – fine motor (finger) skills and gross motor (whole body) skills
Sensory consciousness – registering the sensory information for practice
Speech and Language – to be able to understand and use language, reading and communicating
Social collaboration and emotional regulation – interacting with others in the society
Cognizance – the ability to solve problem and learn

Child Development at Infancy Child Development at Early Childhood Child development at Middle Childhood Glimpse of important milestones of a baby Learning Stimulating techniques Child development with Toys Discipline in your Child Difficult Child - Moody, Disobedient, Naughty Flourishing Adult Shy Baby or Shy Child Top 10 Best Parenting Tips Timid and Aggressive Children Spoiling your Child Things to say to your child Bed-wetting How to Talk to Kids Spend Quality Time with Kids Things Parents Should Never Say to Their Kids Things Parents Should Always Do

Child Development at Infancy

Right from the time of birth an infant goes through many changes from day one, when the baby is out of the mother’s womb. There are many stages of development in an infant
From the day one till the age of 2 years is the most rapid growth of a human lifespan. A baby from being dependent gradually progresses to communicate and reason. They have many physical development during this period like they roll over, sit up, crawl and begin to walk. Fine motor development takes longer to develop. Cognitive development consists of problem solving and increased sensory awareness and perception. Social development that usually happen during this period consists of a sense of self-awareness.

Child Development at Early Childhood

through six years of age. The physical growth takes a slow process as to when compared to the rapid growth that took place during infancy.
The fine and gross motor skills increase dramatically. At this stage the child can run, jump, climb, and balance well. They can write letters and draw well due to fine motor development. The cognitive process increases, that makes the child in reasoning, and problem-solving, advance thinking and learn the native language. In this stage the children learn to understand their own emotions and others thus a sign of social development.

Child development at Middle Childhood

Middle childhood classically is from the age of 6 to 12. Fine and gross motor skills continue to develop. There may be a rapid growth physically, height and weight may increase becoming stronger. This time is known as the school years of a child. The child has to focus on educating and improving on the cognitive development which helps in progressive and redefined communication in brain that enables the child to use advanced logic and problem solving skills more efficiently. Children in middle childhood start to learn advance math techniques, increased IQ level is noticed.

Gross Motor Skills like walking, running and sitting where coordination and control of muscles is required.
Fine Motor Skills-like holding a pencil, picking up small things which require synchronization and control of small muscles.
Hearing- To hear and the ability to understand and react to sounds.
Vision-the ability to see objects and understand what the object is
Emotional and Social Behavior-where the child learns to communicate with the family members or playmates.

Glimpse of important milestones of a baby

A baby improves step-by-step each month. Each of this is milestone for the baby. The below mentioned milestone can be used as a guide as to what is ‘normal’ for a particular age range an expected milestone, however each baby is different and each one have their own pace to achieve these milestones.

Sitting-3-4 months the baby should be ready to sit up. A baby should also not be made to prop up at an age when the still needs the head and neck to be supported.
Crawling-Babies start crawling by 6 months, but 7-9 months is more typical. However, it is not necessary that all babies should crawl.
Standing-By around 6 months the baby should be able to bear some weight on the legs when held upright. Few babies may be able to hold something and stand or pull up to standing position on its own.
Walking- By around 10 months the baby should be able to walk. By this time the baby should be able to walk holding on to the hand of someone

Learning Stimulating techniques

Learning plays a lot of importance during the infant stage. you can stimulate the baby towards learning. It's never too early or late to start stimulating the senses of your baby. Stimulating encourages the baby to learn and develop faster, however each baby develops at its own pace.

Head Control

The first and one of the most important development is babies is to develop head control. Make the baby lie on the tummy which will stimulate and improve head controlling in them.

Talk

Talking to the baby often is very good. the baby will learn to pick up the words and make an attempt, hence try to talk to the baby constantly like she is an adult. Talking while you feed the baby is the best time as you can say Good girl/boy, open your mouth and show the baby in actions of what you are saying.

Ball Game

Take some time to play a ball game with the baby. Roll the ball back n forth and encourage her to roll the ball back to you. Until the baby gets a hang of it and you two can enjoy the play time together.

Stimulate Walking

Keep a toy on the bed a little beyond the reaching distance and encourage her to reach for it, you may notice that she will start stretching for it if the baby cannot reach the baby will start taking little steps to reach the toy. In this way the baby will start walking by standing holding on to the bed or furniture’s around. Provide complete support by holding child’s hand so that the child overcomes the fear of falling down. If the baby doesn’t want to try don’t force.

Push Toys

Toys stimulate development in babies and toddlers faster, give your baby push toys so that the baby can hold the toy and push forward while walking.

Applaud all Triumphs

Encourage the baby by praising and cheering every time the baby shows some learning. This will make the baby attempt to try more of the skills.

Get your child to Socialize

Children learn faster when they spend time with the other kids. Arrange for some play dates or invite some kids over home. Your baby will develop improved social skills.

Avoid Restrictions

Allow the child to do all activities that they enjoy, do not restrict the child and hold her back even if its running or making some sort of noise its ok to allow the child to learn when she is the mood for learning.

Food

Offering the child to eat on her own is best. get a feeding chair and let her sit with you on the table and try and eat in her own way as much as she can. This will help her learn to eat on her own and co-ordination of hands.

Child development with Toys

Physical, social, cognitive, emotional and imaginative skills can be developed by toys. Nowadays toys are designed in way that they help overall development of a child. Many researches have shown that a child learns a lot while playing.

Toys help Physical Development

Development of motor skills
Learns about balancing and stability
Kids learn the hand-eye coordination
They learn Three-dimensional skills
Controlling of foot improves
Learn better balancing techniques
Strengthens leg and builds arms
Learns the use of specific hand movement

Toys help Intellectual Development

Stimulates creative thinking and improved IQ level
Recognition of different colors
Improves speaking skills and imaginative skills
Learn to make up stories and basic shapes
Improves necessary math notions
Develops problem solving skills
Improves vocabulary and power of reasoning

Toys help in Social and Emotional Development

Development of motor skills
Toys help children explore their feelings and how to control them
They become friendlier and socializing
Learn to practice quality friendship with taking turns and expectations
Better focus and concentration
Toys develops patience in the child
Get rid off boredom

Source: Dr. Kathleen Alfano
Ph.D. Director of Child Research

Discipline in your Child

Teaching the child to be disciplined is one the most important parts of a child.
Every child grows at their own personality. Below is few guidance on how you can inculcate discipline in your growing child.
While the child is a toddler when you see the child crying and grumpiness showing a bad behavior, at this age that the way they express is probably because your child is hungry, overtired, ill or feeling insecure. Well that’s not her fault.
At the age of less than a year-old discipline will probably be you saying "no" or taking something away from the baby that is not good for her.
In a year-old child behavior issues like biting, hitting, kicking, not ready to share toys, throwing tantrums, fussy eating, hyper-activeness etc. are few common behavioral issues that can be witnessed. Often such kind of behavior issues arise where self-expression skills and communication skills are not completely developed in the child. To express feelings like anger, stress, frustration, irritation etc. the child uses these behaviors. Help the child in expression and communicating properly. These issues may not be seen in all children. Some children may also show behavior issues which are completely different from what is mentioned above.
These behavior issues observed in the toddlers are a part of growing-up.

Be patient when you observe such issues in your child. Handling such situations very patiently is necessary.
When you observe a behavior issue divert the child’s attention from the situation which will calm the child.
When you notice an unacceptable behavior in the child never hit or yell at the child. Negative methods of disciplining children can only obstruct the development.
When the child shows a good behavior appreciate or reward the child which gives a positive approach to discipline the child.
When you observe a bad behavior in the child try to educate the child as per the age and a polite manner that what is behaved is an unacceptable behavior from the child.
Find out what triggers such bad behavior in the child. To prevent the bad behavior in the child try to avoid such triggers as much as possible.
Its best to not introduce gadgets to the child. If your child gets attached to the gadgets and when denied giving it, the behavior issue triggers

All the discipline issues arise when children are unable to express themselves. Parents should try to understand what is worrying the child and try to help the child instead of losing their calm.

Difficult Child - Moody, Disobedient, Naughty

A moody, disobedient and a naughty child always aim at getting attention.
A toddler's behavior like crying, hitting, annoying can be to attract attention from you. The toddler will not be particular whether the action is negative or positive as long as the baby can drive attention. Once the child gets the response from you, the child will be normal. Although the behavior may appear as a disobedience try not to prevent her efforts of individuality at every stage. If prevent the child will have negative attitude and have frequent mood swings, extreme display of affection and anger.

Dealing with the naughty child

The difference between the right and wrong is known by the naughty child, but unable to show the maturity to apply self-control and to do the right thing. They are sorry and apologetic when caught but will resume back to do the exact same thing that they were doing just an hour ago. You have to be very patient and try sympathetic way, speaking to them frequently. Explain that the behavior is anti-social and propose how the child should behave. If this flops, punishing becomes necessary. Physical punishment is recommended, give the child a reasoning and positive reinforcement or withdraw of privileges is more effective.

Flourishing Adult

The child learns and expands the possibilities to understand the child is an individual in her own way. They try to show a great amount of maturity by simple gestures.

Developing her individuality
The child gradually starts to understand that he is an individual. The child will expand the possibilities understanding that he is not the central point of the world. Every child discovers their individuality in their own, it does not happen overnight.
Signs of maturity
The child will start to display impulsive actions of kindness and consideration for other by putting them first. They become more sensitive to others feelings, demonstrate sympathy and worry.
Parents role
School teachers, Parents and friends all play a role in helping a child develop their individuality to a certain extent. Parents can try and do the following: -
- Teach the child the difference between right and wrong
  Knowing the difference between right and wrong is extremely important in a child. As this will help the child to make some proper choices in life. Nevertheless, more than talking its very necessary to set right examples in order to help the child understand what is right and what is wrong. Children can be molded in they the way parents want to in order for the child to become a well-balanced adult. Parental contribution is extremely crucial in a child’s life. So spending time with them the child and knowing the current situation of the child life should be given a top priority.
- Be a good role model
  Parents must be a good role model to their child as they learn everything from their parents. Acting wisely in front of children is something that parents should always remember and exhibit.
- Teach good manners
  Inculcating good manners in a child is very essential, it’s one of the important aspect of one’s personality. Good manners are appreciated all the time it is essential for day-to-day life.
- Cultivate discipline
  Children should follow discipline in each and every aspect of life to live a happy and successful life. Parents should focus on imbibing discipline in their children.
- Establish good values in the child
  Good values helps in shaping the character of the child. Values that are learnt during the childhood days play significant role in a child’s success. In tough and testing times the reactions to the existing situations exhibit the values learnt help the children to take the correct decisions.

Shy Baby or Shy Child

Shyness in babies is very common. When a stranger or guests come to their house they are preoccupied with their thoughts and feelings and hence they find it difficult to interact with new people. Introversion and shyness, are characters of normal behavior which occur when babies are exposed to an overwhelming social interaction between many strangers around.
Introvert babies almost acts to say:

Want to be alone: An introvert child always prefers loneliness or playing only those whom they recognize.
Do I Know you? An introvert, often gazes deeply at an unfamiliar face and understand them in their own way.
Do not touch my things: Many introverts do not like unfamiliar people entering 'their territory' or touching their bodies and toys.
I want be out of here: an introvert child move away from strangers, sounds, bright lights etc. and they will just want to go out that place.

Help your Introverted child

If a child is introvert, it does not mean that the child cannot socialize or an abnormal child. It only means that the child is different and likes the “me” time most of the time, however as a parent there are certain steps you can take to help the child feel comfortable:
Right from the early age encourage the child to pay with different children with the neighboring children or in playschool. Try and socialize with as many people as possible so that the child doesn’t develop anxiety or severe discomfort in the presence of unfamiliar faces. It is ok is the child does not socialize. In time the child will start playing together.
When you try to get the child mingle with other, if the child refuses do not force the child and avoid shouting or criticizing or any other negative approach. Using positive methods like praising while the child learns to share the toys with the playmates etc.
An introvert child always takes time to become comfortable with a new person. The child will become friendly and familiar in its own terms until then encourage guests give the child his space and hold him only when the child wants.
Try and avoid overload to the child’s sensory such as of bright lights, noise, loud music and parties as children like to be in a calmer place at that age. Introverts show a withdrawn and reserved behavior. Being introvert is not a disorder, so do not worry. As and when the child develops a strong self-esteem and feels comfortable in the presence of strangers the child will be fine as he grows up.

Top 10 Best Parenting Tips

Here are some effective and simple ways of parenting tips

Shower Unconditional Love
When your child is in his childhood that’s is the best time for a parent to spend maximum time and build a bond with the child. A child will not remain as a child, they grow into adults and won’t have time in their busy lives. Try and spend as much time as you can with your child until they grow up to be independent adults and make some happy memories. Show them the love and care you have for them and make the most of the child’s growing years.
Cultivate Healthy food habits
Provide your child with some healthy eating habits from the very young age. A good food habit that develop at young age will continue till adulthood. Give your child good source nutritious and healthy vegetables and fruits instead of junk foods like pizzas, chips and burger.
Understand your child
When your child demands you might get annoyed and irritated and think that the child is being difficult, try to put yourself in their shoes and think the same feeling you had when you were a child. see the situation from the child age perspective. If you were to give your child imagine how excited the child will be. Those would be some good memories the child will have for the life time like you as a parent remember your childhood days fondly
Family-Time!
In today’s worlds parents are very busy in their work life and spend very limited time with their children. A good parenting will be giving some time for your children at least one meal time together. A parent should always take some time off their busy schedule and do something together as family. Play games, clean the house, cook together, watch movies. This will help the bonding in the family closer.
Enjoy and laugh with the child
Laughter is the best medicine. Making your child laugh makes your child s life beautiful and happier. Crack children silly jokes and make them laugh which will bring good energy to house and bond stronger.

Assist your child in studies
As a parent you should assist your child in exceling in academics. Your involvement is very important, make sure your child completes the day to day homework and other assignments. Help them if they need in completing their work, don’t do it. Help them in preparing for their exams and tests.
Compliment Often
Complementing or praising a child genuinely to increases their self-esteem and confidence hence complement as often as you can. Appreciate and celebrate all the achievements and good thing the child does. Boosting self-esteem and confidence is essential for a successful life.
Teach Morals and Values
Inculcate values like kindness, honesty, love, helpfulness and truthfulness in your child so that they develop positive thoughts. These values are very necessary for building their character.
Create a Self-Reliant child
Being independent is always better than dependent. Parents should try to inculcate a child to do their own work. You doing everything for them will make them more dependent which will arise as problem for their future. Give opportunity to do tasks which can be done by them by doing this they slowly self-reliant which increases self-esteem.
No shouting or yell at the child
Avoiding to shout or yell is best as these only harm the child’s self - esteem and confidence.

These tips may guide you during the journey of parenthood to enhancement positive parenting skills. Memories of parent-child bond are exceptional and these hold a special place in every parent and child’s heart!

Timid and Aggressive Children

Children get molded in the shape that the parents give and the environment in which the child grows.
The immediate effect of the environment in which the child grows will show in their behavior
You can see various categories of children some are introvert, extrovert, bold, naughty, shy and few aggressive.

Shy and timid child

Some children do not speak much or mingle with others they keep to themselves are naturally shy in nature. A shy child will withdraw into a shell when they come across new people or new situation. Children with nature need to be given time into a new situation they cannot be plunge into it immediately. Always encourage the child to socialize when they feel comfortable.

Common Sources of shy or timid behavior

Most common cause for shyness is lack of interaction with other people outside the house which lacks in development of social skills. As they are not exposed to more interaction outside they are accustomed to interact with very few people and find it difficult to interact with unknown people, an unknown fear in them which will restrict the child from communicating.
Shyness can also be a genetic drive in the child, if the parents are shy in nature.
Too much emotional bonding and over protectiveness or the bond between the parent and child is weak may give rise to shyness or being timid in the child.
Support shy or timid children by encouraging the child to interact which might work.
Encourage the child to make more friends with the kids around. Talk to the child as often as you can and never punish her or disapprove her for the behavior.

Aggressive child

An aggression is a result of lack of parental care, no discipline or less of behavioral guidance given to the child.The nature of a aggressive children is bullying, attacking physically and verbally which requires to be tweaked at the beginning.

Causes of aggressiveness

Too much pampering may encourage the child to become aggressive and stubborn.
When the child encounters aggressive behavior in the environment the child is growing may make the child become aggressive.
If the child is spending too much time with aggressive children, the child may get influenced towards becoming aggressive.

Help aggressive children

Parents have an important role to play in aiding children dealing with aggressive behavior. Talking and making them understand that aggressive behavior is not acceptable. Instead of punishment and yelling approach it in a positive way calmly. Assure the child that you will always be there for the child and give your complete love and care.
Modeling the behavior of child is entirely under the control of parents. If the child is incorrect and doing wrong things correct them with unconditional love and support. Physical punishment is not the answer

Spoiling your Child

The bond between the mother and the child is said to be the most unconditional one as a mother always wants to see the child happy and protect the child from all possible uncertainties. With the over doze of love and affection few children get spoilt. When they can’t get their way they lie down on the floor screaming and kicking. By giving into this the child is made to feel that nothing else and no one else are important as the child is. This will mean that you are allowing the child to get their way through persuading and bullying you. This is spoiling your child.

Ensure that you don't spoil the child

You must ensure that the tantrums that your child is showing is only to seek attention. So it’s best to ignore You can also try talking to her and making her understand that she will not get her way out at all times

Things to say to your child

Psychologists and researchers in the past acknowledge that children need continuous positive encouragement from their parents for them to be content and determined to perform their task, however researchers nowadays believe that constant praise hinder overall development of the child. Below are few things that one must say to their child.

Say “Thank You”
Expressing gratitude is very important where ever necessary to your child. When you say Thank you to your child the child will feel valued and learn to use it when they think they can use it to others, showing gratitude is a positive motivator. Parents should make the child understand when to use and the reason to use “Thank You”.
Say “Sorry”
When parents are seen apologizing for their mistakes, that they are learning from their mistakes has a positive impact on the child. An educated parent always tries to pass on the knowledge to the child which results in the child feeling that its ok to fail or say sorry there is nothing to be ashamed of, its ok to accept mistakes.
Say appreciating words
Parents often pressurize the kids to try and outdo themselves right from the young age when learning starts. May it be trying to walk, talk or eating. Parents always want their child to perform well. Saying appreciating words for the efforts made by them makes the child believe that the parents are happy and satisfied with the performance. When parents say appreciating words the child will be motivated to try harder and perform well.
Say words that inspire expressing Ideas
When there is an issue that needs to be solved seek for suggestions from your child instead of offering solutions to the problem. Ask them what they would do, how the child would solve it by doing this it will help the child to bring out ideas to solve the problem.
Say words to relax your child
Children often want to hear “take a break for today” Let’s play. Spending time with the child even when you have lot of work makes them feel important and relaxed. You can do some activity that both of you could enjoy doing it.

Motivating the kids positively brings well balance confident child from the tender age and grow up as happy and content human beings.

Bed-wetting

Controlling of bladder occurs at different stages of the child’s life. Each child takes its own time Some may have learnt it earlier whereas some may take more time. Daytime bladder control usually comes first and then night time bladder control. A child may take few years before it could learn to control urinating for nine or more hours. However, if a 5 years or older child wets bed then it might be a cause of concern. Bet wetting is a behavioral issue medically known as 'nocturnal enuresis’. -a word given to uncontrolled passing of urine while asleep.
Bed-wetting is very common connected with child development, however with the doctors help and remedies this problem can be resolved easily. Around 13% of children at the age of 6 wet the bed. If bed -wetting, then it doesn’t mean that you as a parent have failed in toilet-training the child. It’s simple a common factor which can be solved.

Causes of Bed-Wetting

Neurological Causes
The child might be wetting the bed as the body has not yet learnt to control the bladder. Sometimes the brain takes more time to develop voluntary control over few bodily functions. If there is insufficient production of anti-diuretic hormone which prevents loss of water in the body in the form of urine the chances of wetting the bed is more.
Children with bed-wetting problems have low levels of ADH which makes them a heavy sleeper that they cannot wake up once sleeping.
Heredity
Bed-wetting can be an inherited trait. If any one of the parent as a child had the bed-wetting problem the chances of the child inheriting increase.
Physical Causes
The chances of bed wetting are high for all children who have smaller bladder than normal size. The valve which controls the flow of the urine may have problem. A child with urinary tract infection also has an increased chances of bed-wetting.
External Stress
Children experiencing a stressful event may be having bed-wetting issue, when they witness a conflict between parents, sacred of some incident, beginning to go to school, being abused etc.. In few cases such children may be normal but suddenly start bed wetting. However, to support this there is not enough scientific evidence of this theory.

Effects of Bed-Wetting in Children

Bed-wetting causes emotional issues in the child. Some children may also get punished for bed-wetting. If there are sibling, they will even be taunted all this harm a child’s self-esteem and make it even more difficult to stop
Basic steps to reduce your child's bed-wetting:

Wake up the child up during the night to empty, the bladder
Few hours before bedtime or post evening limit a child's intake of fluid before bedtime.
Inspire the child to use the toilet before sleeping
When the temperature drops down there are chances that the child will cold and wet the bed, dress the child in an appropriate clothes based on the weather
You can make the child use diapers to avoid the embarrassment of the child and prevent the mess.

In severe cases of bed-wetting, consult a doctor to see the underlying cause. strengthening exercise or a hormonal supplement maybe given to compensate for the low levels of ADH.
Bed wetting is child is nor a deliberate response it’s an involuntary response. With parents support and simple remedies the child can overcome this habit. Making a child guilty of this habit is not at all a good approach as this will hamper the child’s emotional development.

How to Talk to Kids

Taking to children in the right manner is important so that they listen and not feel any hesitation while discussing their problems. This will avoid all communication barriers and prevent kids from hiding or having secrets.
Having a good communicating relationship with the kids is an art. Not all parents have a good communicating relationship some parents face difficulties in talking to their children or even understand them. Talking to kids is very challenging and requires lot of patience in understanding them, parents have to communicate in their level of understanding to communicate effectively. These are few ways to help you communicate to get positive response.

Using simple words
A child is too small to understand big words, long talks and explanations. Don’t use a lot of words. use simple and easy language so that the child understands what you are communicating and not get confused. Go slow and most important to make the conversations short. Always pause in between and give time for the child to think and respond. Don’t push for getting response immediately, putting oneself in the child shoes will always help to make the conversation more effective.
Confident Parent
Before you strike any conversation with the child you as a parent should be confident of what you are wanting to talk to child. The child will open freely to a confident parent. Take compete charge of the conversation and talk such that the child feels safe and secure to discuss a topic.
Being Positive
Using positive words always makes a conversation better. Be kind, make the child feel important and avoid criticizing. Before mentioning what went wrong mention the good things done by the child and praise, by receiving positive vides the child will be more confident and happy to listen to the talks. Encourage the child to have positive approach.
Be a Good Example
For children parents are the role model. They look up to you for many things. Whether good or bad they grasp all habits easily from their parents. As a parent you are responsible enough for the actions that the child is learning. A parent should always try to set a good example before the child. Being responsive enough, giving full undivided attention no matter how busy you are to talk to the child when the child wants makes that you respect the child’s feelings. Give him or her opportunity to think and take decisions. Never ignore the child’s feelings.
Calling by the own name
Addressing the child by its own name makes them feel important. To get responses when you call out for them. Put their name first before you want to place a request to them.
Relate and connect with you child
Developing an emotional bond with the child is very effective. That will enable you to connect with the child better. Striking for an eye contact with the child before to start a conversation will enable the child to focus more and will also be a good listener. Try to be a good listener and do not be judgmental.
Good tone of Talking
While you are talking to your child the tone in which you talk place an important role in parenting. Talking softly strengthens the parent-child bonding and avoids communication gaps. Parent should never be harsh, cruel or use harsh words while talking as it can affect their self-esteem and confidence. Being one of their friend is best, they will not hesitate to share their problems with you.

Spend Quality Time with Kids

Due to the changing lifestyles, in this busy world it’s makes it even the more important for parents to be able to spend quality time with kids often even in their busy schedule. Being a parent is extremely difficult as well as overwhelming.
Today’s busy parents are not able to spend quality time with the child. Managing work and raising children is challenging. The parents always have preset expectations; however, you don’t know what they are up to in the next moment.
Irrespective of what age group they belong to you have to be very patient and friendly.

Spending time with children is become essential these days, as more and more people prefer nuclear families, where there is lack of the presence of elders in the house and the child is left alone. Apart from the daily routine and homework you need to give more time the child.

Everyday time with kids
No matter how busy you are never miss taking out some time for your kids. This will help you bond with the child well. Schedule an uninterrupted exclusive time for your child either just before bedtime, right after your return from the office or at your convenience. When you never fail to give this time to your child the child will be waiting for you for this bonding and there is no question of missing it.
“A family that’s eats together stays together” - Family dinner
Dining together as family will bond the family more. Hence all families should try to have dinner daily. Dining together makes everyone interact with each other and discuss their day. Show interest and pay attention to what your child’s speaking especially if it’s a teenager. Seek for all information of the day’s school activities. If you are unable to get information and see that the child is not opening up to discuss comfortably, make sure to spend some time every day with the child to build confidence in you and make you his friend
Chat about big or small issues with your Child
As a parent if you choose to tell your child about your issues either big or small, you are giving them an opportunity to sit by you and understand that you are exhausted. Few children show sensitivity towards your state and show care and concern. If the child comes forward for a massage on your head or feet, allow him to do it. This strengthens the bonding and shows his love and affection toward you.
Avoid only playing
While you are giving your child time make sure you prioritize the time between play and talking. Don’t use all the time for play or watching television. Talking should be a part of the time spent equally.

Having a good relationship with your child is very essential and best if this starts as early as possible.

Things Parents Should Never Say to Their Kids

Parents deal with many things on a daily basis and unintentionally say few statements that convey wrong message or ideas to the child. Saying them such things can also affect their self-esteem and hurt them emotionally.
Expectations are mutual between all relationships as parents have expectations from children, kids also have certain expectations in their parents. Few things you must never say to your kids, no matter what.

“You never do anything right”
Words are very effective. Everything that has been told by the parent is taken to the heart by the child so be very careful while you choose to say anything to the child as what a parent says means a lot to the child. If you want to say that something was done incorrectly try to and see the things that were done rightly.
“Your sibling is my best child”
Comparing siblings is one the most common mistakes most of the parents do. When parents compare between children the compared child will start feeling that no matter what he does he will not be able to impress the parent and that’s the worst feeling to give a child as a parent. That should be stopped immediately
“You are useless”
Saying to a child he/she is useless are the words that should never be told any child. This will make the child extremely disappointed.
“I don’t have time for you”
Each child seeks for care, love and attention from its parents. When a child approaches you for something never say you don’t have time for the child, irrespective how busy you might be. Choose a polite and a polite way in saying that you need some time to attend to the child.
“You never do anything right”
Words are very effective. Everything that has been told by the parent is taken to the heart by the child so be very careful while you choose to say anything to the child as what a parent says means a lot to the child. If you want to say that something was done incorrectly try to and see the things that were done rightly.
“I hate your father/mother”
Telling a bad thing about the other partner gives a wrong impression to the child about the father /mother which is not good. So never say anything wrong about your spouse in front of the child no matter how disturbed you are in the relationship.
“You are not as beautiful as your sister”
Saying that your sibling is beautiful makes the child emotionally hurt and this will stimulate hatred for the sibling. so don’t say this.
“I know I’m right”
Giving your child a chance to explain which will make the child feel confident, but if you as parent say I know I am correct that will convey that no clarification from the child’s end will convince you. So never say this.
“I Wish I never had kids”
Saying such harsh words to child may be received by the child as unloved and unwanted so never say this.
“I am disappointed by you”
Expectations is one of the crucial point of everyone’s life. When your child does not meet the required expectations instead of saying ‘I am disappointed by you’ choose better and proper words.

Parents should always remember that the way they react with the child is the way the child will adopt to the same learning which can be both positive and negative influence. So think before you speak and choosing proper words for communication is crucial. Young minds always have their own set of curiosity and activeness.

Things Parents Should Always Do

Helping the child to boost the confidence and overall development is very important part of parenting. Parents should constantly motivate children. While parents are so occupied in what is right and what is wrong for the child development they ignore to understand what the child might be going through in all this, may it be a bad situation or a good situation. The child doesn’t understand in the same capabilities as that of an adult.
Parents need to understand and learn that irrespective of what age group the child belongs to, the job of parenting never stops. As a parent you would want the best and nurturing environment for your child that would help the child grow in a successful confident responsible human being.

What a parent should do

Show Love and Affection
Showing love and affection right from the birth of the child makes the child feel loved and cared. Never ignore the importance of physical connection with the child. A caring hug and a warm touch is enough to show the love you have for the child.
Praise Your Child
Praising a child while the achievements and accomplishments will make the child more confident, happy and good about himself and is very important for a parent to do it.
Listen to Your Child
While you expect that your child should listen to you when you are talking, it’s the same way the child also wants you to listen to them when they want to say something. Communication both ways is important. So build an environment around the child such that the child approaches you irrespective how big or small is the problem.
Quality time with your child
Spending quality time with the child is important to make the child feel loved and special. you can take the child to a park, a long drive or play board games at home. Make sure both of you enjoy the time.
Appreciate Achievements
By appreciating every accomplished milestone, the child will feel good and proud of oneself. Be there for the child whether it is a play in which the child is enacting or the day he won the prize for an achievement or have done better in his studies. These would become some the beautiful cherished times of life for both, child and parents.
Be content of your child’s achievements
Parents often compare their child with others which has negative impact on the mental development of the child. Instead you should be happy for what your child is able to achieve and motivate your child to develop certain skills and encourage him achieve that.
Appreciate Your Child’s Efforts
Every child puts his/her own efforts in everything they are doing. Try to be a helping parent to improve and do better than comparing your child with the others. Never compare your child with others. Always appreciate their efforts in everything they do.
Rewarding your Child
Rewarding a child always motivates the child to perform better next time. So give your child some kind of rewards for all achievements.
Let the child learn from experiences
Allowing the child to live with the situation and they make the choices, you can be around to guide them from time to time on how and what would be better.

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